The thought of sharing the news of your pregnancy can be overwhelming. How do you choose the right time? The right words? What reaction will you get? Despite your fear, try to talk to others who love you and can help you instead of carrying both your baby and your secret by yourself. No matter what you eventually decide is the best plan for your baby, you will need support.

Just as you were in shock when you first learned you were pregnant, the people you tell may be stunned too. But just as you eventually moved from shock to planning, so will other people. Give them time to process their initial emotions. Don't make any lifelong decisions based on their first response. Everyone may need time to calm down or their reaction may surprise you.

Only you know the best approach for the important people in your life, but here are some general tips:

• First, confirm your pregnancy with a doctor. Be sure you didn't get a false positive from a home pregnancy test.
  
• Practice telling someone supportive, but be prepared for the range of reactions you might get.
  
• Take a supportive person with you.
  
• Don't break the news at work or school or immediately after someone comes home from work or school.
  
• Start with how you are feeling, what you need, and why you are telling them. This may help them empathize with you.
  
• Write a letter if talking is too difficult. Don't use e-mail or text messaging.
  
• Don't ask for any immediate decisions.
  
• If you are worried about getting physically hurt, first plan for a safe place to go and arrange for a way to get there.